Thursday, March 1, 2012

Damn Kids

I totally lost count of all the times I have had a rant about the youth of today. I don’t remember ever being this opinionated about kids back before I had a child of my own, except when the Columbine shooting happened, which changed every perspective I had. Then when Virginia Tech happened, I pretty much lost all hope. Let me start by saying WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON? Is it because kids are having kids? Is it because parents just don’t want to be involved or plain and simple don’t care?

I find myself always watching children when I drop Mason off at school. I was driving down the road this morning and saw a young boy about 13 or so, walking away from the school, with something in his hand. When I got closer I realized that it was some sort of gaming thing, but still why was my first thought a weapon of sorts? Because that is what is happening! Kids are getting guns and knives and taking their crazy depression or bullying sadness out on their peers. Kids need an outlet, I have always been a firm believer. Whether you buy them a punching bag or put them in Martial Arts, they NEED an outlet and sometimes it’s just not cool to talk to mom and dad, which sucks but it’s the truth. Let them know you are there, no matter what!

I was bullied in school, I was picked on in school and I hated every minute of it. I was one of those kids that kept it to myself. Yes, I did have depression as early as a lot of these kids, but if there is one thing I will never forget that my parents taught me was, “don’t take shit from anyone and have self respect”. I took it for a long time until I finally just decided IM DONE! I may be small (height wise) but I won’t back down, not in this life and that is what helped. I played the crazy side of it and it worked for me. I just don’t understand where kids think that attempting and/or taking their lives or the lives of others proves anything. I myself have been in situations like that and yes in the moment, that seems like the best answer! I will just end my pain myself, because nobody else is going to end it for me.

Whatever happened to kids getting in trouble for smoking a little pot or sneaking a beer out of dad’s fridge? You know normal young kid stuff? Now they go straight down the road of kill kill kill! The fact of the matter is there is always going to be a bully or pain in the ass in your life. ALWAYS! I don’t care how old you are, whether it is a sibling, friend or co-worker. There is always going to be someone who tries to get the better of you. It is how we choose to deal with it that makes or breaks us. I only have one child, and though sometimes I wish I had more, I smack myself and realize I have enough with just one. I am going to instill in him, the same values my parents instilled in me. Fighting isn’t the answer, but don’t take shit from anyone!

Even worse, now these little girls are putting up YouTube videos of themselves with the question “do you think I’m pretty or do you like me?” That is just setting yourself up for embarrassment and sadness. There is always going to be that asshole out there that just says you’re fat and ugly for now reason, but to make themselves feel funny. Technology has become this huge thing with kids that are younger and younger. Parents need to be parents and monitor! I mean really monitor, that is your freaking job!!

I am 31 years old and I have NEVER been in a physical fight besides the small you push me, then I will push you type of deal and in the ring sparring for Tae Kwon Do. I, to this day have no idea how that happened, but I kept that voice in the back of my head that kept me calm and told me, it’s not worth it.

We can’t baby them all the time, like we want to, but I will be damned if my kid is a bully or becomes the victim of such.


Peace and Love